There is always a different angle to view each experience! However we tend to find this most difficult when we are going through one that we do not like. Try this the next time it happens to you……….
Pay attention and ‘feel’ the emotions that you are going through so that you can really ‘know’ what it feels like to experience such an event or process. Quickly use your mind to calm yourself down, you can do this many different ways. I like to use plan old logic. I separate myself from the experience and step back from the storm and use what I have learned to relax. “What advise would I give someone else in this same situation?” and then I give myself the same advise. I ‘get over’ it! I then follow with concentrating on a solution and only a solution. I try my best not to look back. You need to cut off your mental connection to this unwanted situation so that you won’t attract more and more thoughts that resemble the unwanted situation and cause negative manifestations! Once you have come up with a plan/solution, take small baby steps if needed, of action to produce the wanted results of this experience. You have now changed your energy path from negative to positive! You are taking charge of your own personal situation and taking your POWER back!
The reason that I asked you to “feel” those feelings in the beginning was for future purpose. Why? Because it is important for us as souls that are here on earth to learn and grow, to be able to have compassion for all others and when we have experienced a specific experience that someone else may be going through, we will then have the TRUE ability to be compassionate! After we have an unwanted experience we need to disconnect/disengage from it emotionally so that we do not manifest it again. We need to be able to talk with others and have, what is called, a disconnected compassion. That way we can understand what others are experiencing, yet not manifest it (again) for ourselves!
You can now VIEW your negative experience differently. See this experience as a lesson and a gift of learned compassion to possibly be utilized in the future!
Good Luck. Until next time….. (I will try to discuss this disconnect issue more in the next few postings. Positive energy to you all….)
I ‘love’ people. Most of the time if you listen to others they will say the opposite. But not me. I ‘love’ people. Good or not so good, people are so interesting to experience experiences with. Therefor, I enjoy all interactions with others because I always “learn” from them. It could be bad and/or “good”, either way, it is always interesting. So….. grow a little today and no matter good or bad (your perception), enjoy your experience!
So the other day I was very annoyed at a few people who I am sharing my life experiences with at this time and I certainly did not enjoy the awful feelings that were running through my veins! I was having a little battle with myself at the same time, because that is just what I do when I know that I am thinking thoughts that are clearly not beneficial! It doesn’t really matter now, what the topic of irritation was, for at the time it surely had a hold on me. Thankfully the hold didn’t last long, it never really does with me due to the fact that I pay specific attention to my emotions, however, I never like to think any thoughts that make me fall down on the ladder. So, anyway the big question is… how did I get over it, right?
First one has to realize that the negative feelings are 100% only hurting ones self! No body else cares or knows what you are even thinking/feeling in the first place. Most of the time we are all just silently bubbling on the inside, while those around us cruise around completely unaware! Second, one has to ask, why am I hurting myself with these thoughts? (Oh, yeah.. back to the perfectly good reason to be irritated!! That person did that to me!!…) Now we are rightfully upset again because we have gone and made a mind circle back to feeling negative. This is all part of the process. You need to know why you are feeling negative so that you can release it! Following this exercise, what is needed is…… Forgiveness. And do you know why one needs to forgive? It is not to make the other person feel better (s*&#…. they don’t even know you have feelings!) We have to do it for ourselves! It is a gift to self when we forgive another! Toxic chemicals get released into our physical bodies when we are thinking negative thoughts. You can not heal yourself when you are holding a grudge! Forgive someone today because they are on their own life journey and you my friend, are on yours! Make it a great one full of blissful moments. We all have to live our own experiences. Perception is all that it is! Perceive it in a wonderful way, no matter what you created in your mind yesterday, that you are experiencing now! Forgive him or her for allowing their energies to blend with yours at a time when you did not want them to and then forgive yourself for allowing any negatives in! Good Luck and positive thoughts to you and yours… Until next time…
There are so so so many things that we do, are, and experience that we fail to appreciate! I am for sure a glass is half full kinda girl, however even being so, I can find myself in a state of gloom. And I will also find myself in a huge state of irritation when my oldest cheerfully reminds me to “Think positive, mom! Change your energy and be happy so that you can attract happier stuff, mom!” It’s like he is reading my heart which is screaming the very same thing at me. The irritation is not really at him of course, it is at me for feeling negative in the very first place. Also, it then brings me great (and I mean great) relief and joy to realize that he is actually listening to me when I try to teach him how to make his life path a joy filled one! And that is an awesome gift as a parent. Following such far and few between episodes, I relax and cheer up as I do change my mind-set and move on to higher energy fields, and gather, once again, another ‘thing’ to appreciate!
So, today… I appreciate being a parent. Sometimes it is quite exhausting, but moments like above, it is a radiant blessing to watch our little ones grow and blossom into strong individuals. We spend our days in small panics, worrying if they will turn out okay. Will they listen to us when we tell them to not do harmful things to themselves and to be smart and patient??? Who knows. However, I do know that worry only brings on situations that will make me worry, so I choose to think of all the wonderful and amazing experiences that they will have throughout their journeys. I am ever so grateful to be a parent (even those times when my husband and I can not find a babysitter, ha ha.) Teaching is an honor and we as parents are ‘teachers’! Lead by example.
The secret is quite easy, really! Just appreciate what you have today!
What have you appreciated today?
Go ahead, make a list of all the wonderful things and experiences in your life! Having a hard time? Look away for a moment. What do you see going on around you? There is always someone having a more difficult experience in life! Only glance at them long enough to make a quick mental note then switch your mind gears back to yourself. Now… what do you have to appreciate about your own journey? Practice looking at the beauty that is within your world! The better you get at this, the more abundance will follow!
It has been such a nice summer! Drinking, playing with friends, child-like activities spread throughout my weeks….. ahhh….. what a life! Realizing that in just 2 weeks my beautiful children will have to return to their normal fall through spring school activities makes me feel a tad sad. Not “I think I am going to cry” sad, but more of the “wow, I really enjoyed the last few months and it’s time for change” kind of sad. I will miss the relaxed schedules and bare feet. And I will for sure miss being able to say “Sure we can stay up and have another drink, we don’t have to be any where in the morning!” Just like when I was a kid.
So, what makes this summer different then past summers, as an adult? Well, I am pretty sure it has everything to do with embracing my personal power of life control mind-set. Another words, using what I have learned to take control and enjoy my moments no matter what they may be! I have found the secret to happiness! It involves relaxing my mind, body and spirit to a level of LOVE. It involves realizing that I need not take on the worries of others and just go with what feels “good and right” even if it’s just for that moment! Did I let some things GO? yes, I sure did. Like a couple of jobs that were making me feel anxiety. I let go blogging for a few weeks at a time (and NOT feel bad about it), there was also another computer job project that I was trying to do just for the sake of money, it was really stressing me out, so let it go – I did! I switched up priorities to ones that made more sense for me and gave me a feeling of “fun” (and calm stomach!) Therefore my summer has felt more child-like, more FUN! Did a few things get pushed aside like house work or yard work? For sure, however, it’s still there and had I pushed too hard to be all and do all, I wouldn’t be writing this right now. It will all get done (and I didn’t lose any friends over the lack of finished projects either!) The kids will be at school for most of the day soon, and I will feel comfortable completing the unfinished whatever… We don’t have anyone to impress but our selves. And as long as we love and respect our decisions, more impressive situations will occur! Trying to LIVE IN THE MOMENT is the way of a child. It’s a feeling of freedom and joy. It makes your path clearer and your experiences fuller! Live like a child today, you will be happy that you did!! Best wishes always… until next time….