A different way to ‘look’ at it…

I ‘love’ people. Most of the time if you listen to others they will say the opposite. But not me. I ‘love’ people. Good or not so good, people are so interesting to experience experiences with. Therefor, I enjoy all interactions with others because I always “learn” from them. It could be bad and/or “good”, either way, it is always interesting. So….. grow a little today and no matter good or bad (your perception), enjoy your experience!

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I know..it ‘is’ so hard to forgive…

So the other day I was very annoyed at a few people who I am sharing my life experiences with at this time and I certainly did not enjoy the awful feelings that were running through my veins! I was having a little battle with myself at the same time, because that is just what I do when I know that I am thinking thoughts that are clearly not beneficial! It doesn’t really matter now, what the topic of irritation was, for at the time it surely had a hold on me. Thankfully the hold didn’t last long, it never really does with me due to the fact that I pay specific attention to my emotions, however, I never like to think any thoughts that make me fall down on the ladder. So, anyway the big question is… how did I get over it, right?

First one has to realize that the negative feelings are 100% only hurting ones self! No body else cares or knows what you are even thinking/feeling in the first place. Most of the time we are all just silently bubbling on the inside, while those around us cruise around completely unaware! Second, one has to ask, why am I hurting myself with these thoughts? (Oh, yeah.. back to the perfectly good reason to be irritated!! That person did that to me!!…) Now we are rightfully upset again because we have gone and made a mind circle back to feeling negative. This is all part of the process. You need to know why you are feeling negative so that you can release it! Following this exercise, what is needed is…… Forgiveness. And do you know why one needs to forgive? It is not to make the other person feel better (s*&#…. they don’t even know you have feelings!) We have to do it for ourselves! It is a gift to self when we forgive another! Toxic chemicals get released into our physical bodies when we are thinking negative thoughts. You can not heal yourself when you are holding a grudge! Forgive someone today because they are on their own life journey and you my friend, are on yours! Make it a great one full of blissful moments. We all have to live our own experiences. Perception is all that it is! Perceive it in a wonderful way, no matter what you created in your mind yesterday, that you are experiencing now! Forgive him or her for allowing their energies to blend with yours at a time when you did not want them to and then forgive yourself for allowing any negatives in! Good Luck and positive thoughts to you and yours… Until next time…

From the heart,
Shana

Just another ‘great’ to appreciate!

There are so so so many things that we do, are, and experience that we fail to appreciate! I am for sure a glass is half full kinda girl, however even being so, I can find myself in a state of gloom. And I will also find myself in a huge state of irritation when my oldest cheerfully reminds me to “Think positive, mom! Change your energy and be happy so that you can attract happier stuff, mom!” It’s like he is reading my heart which is screaming the very same thing at me. The irritation is not really at him of course, it is at me for feeling negative in the very first place. Also, it then brings me great (and I mean great) relief and joy to realize that he is actually listening to me when I try to teach him how to make his life path a joy filled one! And that is an awesome gift as a parent. Following such far and few between episodes, I relax and cheer up as I do change my mind-set and move on to higher energy fields, and gather, once again, another ‘thing’ to appreciate!

So, today… I appreciate being a parent. Sometimes it is quite exhausting, but moments like above, it is a radiant blessing to watch our little ones grow and blossom into strong individuals. We spend our days in small panics, worrying if they will turn out okay. Will they listen to us when we tell them to not do harmful things to themselves and to be smart and patient??? Who knows. However, I do know that worry only brings on situations that will make me worry, so I choose to think of all the wonderful and amazing experiences that they will have throughout their journeys. I am ever so grateful to be a parent (even those times when my husband and I can not find a babysitter, ha ha.) Teaching is an honor and we as parents are ‘teachers’! Lead by example.

Until next time….. Love and Joy to all……

A silly moment in time.

 

Can you believe that I just made myself feel guilty about something that hadn’t even happened yet, or that may even happen? I just made a whole scenario up in my mind that left me with a feeling of guilt. The experience never actually happened at least not yet, but I already made it up and it left me feeling guilty. I find that simply amazing. I totally just judged myself in the worst way. There is absolutely no reason that I should be feeling this way. How funny is that? We do it all the time. Worry about something that we made up in our heads. Something that we are assuming. It is a total feeling of powerlessness. And all we need to do is change our mind-set. Change it to believe that we need not feel those feelings, that situation is not even happening, I can’t make it any more simple, that which is going on your head, is not really happening, you made it up! so why not just change your mind-set and think of something ‘good’? Hello……. This is what I say to myself when I catch myself doing this. Funny huh? Just a little something to chew on and think about.. Have a great night. Until next time……

From the Heart,

Shana

Another day in the life of a deliberate creater

 

"When life gives you lemons, make some tasty lemonade"

"When life gives you lemons, make some tasty lemonade"

I feel like I need to take a really big deep breath and slowly exhale……aahhh. Okay, the last two days I feel like I have been testing myself, left and right. How annoying, right? Because I know that I attract everything and I want to attract certain experiences and I also know that when I am experiencing a repeat of certain episodes (life experiences that I do ‘not’ want) that I am in the processes of testing myself to see how I am ‘now’ handling the situation, always with grace of course (not!) Let me explain further. When I am in the (usually long) process of trying to complete a life lesson or soul lesson, that specific experience that I am trying to rid my life of, will creep up from behind and ‘SMACK’ me right across the face! Which of course happened to me today.

Yesterday, however was a little bit easier (sneaky bastards..life lesson I mean) Anyway, I had only little bits of tests yesterday like, being late for appointments and trying hard not to look at the clock, while staying relaxed to pay attention to see if someone was going to pull in front of me and slow down to a crawl (I made it to my destination without a second to spare, but not late and keeping my smile all the while. Ha! take that, self.)

I also, had a great healing session done on me last night which was very spiritually opening. The healing was all done through energy work and might explain why today was so interesting for me or should I say painful. I am probably not making much sense, so let me try to explain further.

A soul lesson consists of an event in one’s life that one does not want and therefore is trying to release and rid themselves of. The less one puts thought and energy into the unwanted, the less it will occur. A life or soul lesson is something that you have been trying to overcome for lifetimes. So, usually it is a biggie, something that makes you feel uncomfortable deep inside and recurs often and with great strength. It also will most likely involve a very close partner (spouse, parent, child, etc.) because the two of you agreed to come in together to help each other overcome and spiritually grow in regards to this certain subject, hence ‘life lesson.’ Once you overcome, that certain experience will no longer be experienced and you will than have ascended.

Now, my personal lesson that I have a co-experiencer with, nipped me in the butt today and I had an unusually hard time letting go, emotionally. My mind was analyzing each word and phrase and emotion and and and.. I finally had to talk it out with another close experiencer (who, ironically, was also experiencing the near exact episode with her co-experiencer – go figure.) We are on the same spiritual page so it made it easy for us to counsel each other. I would say things like, “I know that in order for me emerge from this hole, I need to let go and actually ‘stop’ talking about it and analyzing it to death, but ….”, “My emotions are so charged and I just have to release and them and remember (the word ‘remember’ came up a lot) what I know.” This particular soul lesson had been so INfrequent lately, that I know it is almost over, I am almost there, “don’t let this one do you in”, ¬†‘I CAN overcome and release.” ¬†Because here is how it works: The more advanced you are in the process of releasing your soul lesson, meaning, not letting it bother you and detaching from the negative energy associated with it, the less ‘it’ will occur in your life. Eventually it will be far and few between, until barely ever. Then “Wham!” it will ¬† show its evil face, just to test you and see if you really are over it. How you react will determine if it’s out for good and you move on. So, today I really fought to react in a smart and positive way. I want this b*#@$ to be gone and gone for good! My negative action was short-lived (with work) and I was gratefully rewarded with a more peacefully energetically charged, co-experiencer. I am not fully removed, yet. And I know this because I am only ‘almost’ able to fully disconnect (and still hold compassion at the same time) from the subject of the experience and my co-experiencer. However it is a million times better than it has ever been before in this lifetime and the past lifetimes. So, all in all I end on a happy note with the thoughts of an easy and peaceful present (I almost said future, oops), filled with love and freedom. Until next time… smiles to all.

From the heart, always,

Shana

p.s. I wanted to thank a fellow blogger named, Sarah (sarah-alice-enterprises@live.com) for doing a great job on editing my up and coming book. I can’t wait to release it to the public!!! Thanks, Sarah!

A day in the life of a deliberate creater…

Hhmmm…. What to say…. being a writer, it is always great when your mind goes blank (when you want to write something) but it practically screams when I need to meditate – go figure.

Well, I wanted to start writing yesterday, however due to the fact that it was the first day that I had made the decision to change my blog up( for the time being, ) I totally sabatogged myself! All day long I kept thinking of things that I wanted to write about in my posting at the end of the day. So, I kind of missed out on a lot of moments to actually write about in regards to the law of attraction. I did however, in the midst of getting my 3 wonderful yet hurried children ready for school (7am), run up the stairs and pull my muscle in my left calf! And knew right away that my body/soul connect was yelling at me “Slow Down, Woman!” Therefore, after I got all my children off to school, I cancelled my fitness classes and rested for the day. I happily made some new friends on wordpress and enjoyed the sounds from my new alarm clock, it’s one of those that makes ocean sounds and other like sounds (highly suggest getting one!) Anyway, my day was kind of ‘flat’ so nothing exciting happened, and my leg feels a little bit better today (I was able to teach my hip-hop class, yah.) That brings me to today. It started out normal and okay, but I had a feeling of mute sadness around and through me, so I had to do a lot of positive personal coaching, moment by moment. I hate when I have to do this because it is quite exhausting, but I know in the long run it is worth it. It got me through the day, which was a good thing because, while nothing major happened in my personal reality, I watched it happen to others, left and right! One of them happened to my boss who found out that her man is and has been, cheating on her with what seems to be, more than one girl. He was not being very smart and left his phone in her room (not a good idea if you have pretty pictures of half naked women on it and messages that are obscene – hopefully he learns something tonight when she bashes the hell out of him..) I was the first one on the scene of the “Oh my god he’s cheating on me and I can’t breath right now..” She was all red and so hurt and pissed and every other fair emotion that I would only imagine would run through the body of such an experience. And I wanted with every fiber of my being to sit her down and give her sound advise and help coach her through this horrible experience, but…… I could only tell her how sorry I was and give that face of compassion. I know that she has to live ‘it’ herself because she’s the one who attracted this and it is quite a soul lesson for her (I had to keep closing my lips and silently tell myself to let that need to help her, go.) She needs to learn how to detach and love herself (there is so much self pity, hate, & guilt) and there was nothing I could do to help her learn her lesson, other than hold her hand and wish her peace. We will have to see tomorrow if she did indeed have the cops show up – that’s what she said, not me! I will let you know the outcome.

So, then I had to think of all the wonderful things that I am grateful for and I of course called my husband to tell him how much I love him. I always do that when I hear/see bad relationship stories. My husband and I are on the same page (or at least in the same chapter.) Unfortunetly, he was also having a similar experience in regards to being stabbed in the back by a few friends or should I say former friends. I also had to pull the compassion card and let him ride it out. That was my journey for the day – “helping people by not helping them!” It has made me a stronger person to let go and let others live out what they need to, although I can help those who ‘ask’ for help, because that is when help is needed and useful. Today I was not asked but did the best I could to silently give love to those in need and do my best to lead by peaceful example, (but, boy was it hard especially when someone you love is hurting and spouting out about how they want revenge – a lot of that going on – and you ‘know’ that it is only going to hurt ‘them’ and bite them back sooner or later, but again it’s their journeys, I am just here with them to ‘co’ experience.) My love to all of you out there today having experiences like these….

Until next time (and I am sure I will slowly have more deliberate creative experiences to write about as soon as I stop thinking about writing about them, ha, ha, ha…) Smiles and positive vibrations to you all…

From the heart,

Shana

Part II of Defuse (2nd half of prior posting)

Here are the steps needed to defuse a negatively charged situation..

  • recognize that you are armed for battle.
  • understand that in order to keep the negative charge between you and the other person, you need to keep the ‘fire’ lit inside of you.
  • put your own fire (negative charge) out and watch the sizzling charge between you and the other person start to slowly vanish.

Okay, now how do we put our ‘fire’ out? It is the same as it is with the rest of the law of attraction. After you pay attention to what is happening inside of you, it is time to make a decision – keep up with the negative situation by focusing on all the negative thoughts, therefor attracting more situations like this one into your future or…. LET GO and stop the recurrence of similar negative situations? Let’s stop ’em! Yes? Alright then, here is what we all need to work on…

  • understanding that the other person is in charge of their experiences, therefor you do not need to get emotionally involved.
  • recognize that the other person needs to go through what ever they are going through for a reason and when you back away emotionally it is very good for them and their soul growth.
  • disconnect yet be compassionate to their situation (you may have experienced what they are now experiencing, in your past.)
  • if you can’t comfort them, be logical in a loving way.
  • just say that you understand and you are sorry that they have to have this experience and Walk Away!
  • breath deeply and go into a quite area (bathroom?) to try and meditate and clear your mind, if only for a moment.
  • always re-enter the other persons space with a light attitude (sometimes a beer or glass of wine helps)
  • AND most importantly know that there is no right or wrong in life. Therefor there is not any real reason for any of us to feel guilty, mad or defensive in any situation/experience. We need to learn from life and make smart uplifting decisions. Do we want to experience ‘this’ again? Then defuse your energy and eventually you will no longer have ‘this’ experience again!

Following these steps will be the best thing that you will ever do for yourself and the other people in your life. It will bring peace to your path and everyone will benefit. It will bring your soul vibrations up and open your doors wide to manifesting your wonderful desires!

Good Luck and call on me if you need help!

From the heart,

Shana