Take a different view….

There is always a different angle to view each experience! However we tend to find this most difficult when we are going through one that we do not like. Try this the next time it happens to you……….

Pay attention and ‘feel’ the emotions that you are going through so that you can really ‘know’ what it feels like to experience such an event or process. Quickly use your mind to calm yourself down, you can do this many different ways. I like to use plan old logic. I separate myself from the experience and step back from the storm and use what I have learned to relax. “What advise would I give someone else in this same situation?” and then I give myself the same advise. I ‘get over’ it! I then follow with concentrating on a solution and only a solution. I try my best not to look back. You need to cut off your mental connection to this unwanted situation so that you won’t attract more and more thoughts that resemble the unwanted situation and cause negative manifestations! Once you have come up with a plan/solution, take small baby steps if needed, of action to produce the wanted results of this experience. You have now changed your energy path from negative to positive! You are taking charge of your own personal situation and taking your POWER back!

The reason that I asked you to “feel” those feelings in the beginning was for future purpose. Why? Because it is important for us as souls that are here on earth to learn and grow, to be able to have compassion for all others and when we have experienced a specific experience that someone else may be going through, we will then have the TRUE ability to be compassionate! After we have an unwanted experience we need to disconnect/disengage from it emotionally so that we do  not manifest it again. We need to be able to talk with others and have, what is called, a disconnected compassion. That way we can understand what others are experiencing, yet not manifest it (again) for ourselves!

You can now VIEW your negative experience differently. See this experience as a lesson and a gift of learned compassion to possibly be utilized in the future!

Good Luck. Until next time….. (I will try to discuss this disconnect issue more in the next few postings. Positive energy to you all….)

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Another day in the life of a deliberate creater

 

"When life gives you lemons, make some tasty lemonade"

"When life gives you lemons, make some tasty lemonade"

I feel like I need to take a really big deep breath and slowly exhale……aahhh. Okay, the last two days I feel like I have been testing myself, left and right. How annoying, right? Because I know that I attract everything and I want to attract certain experiences and I also know that when I am experiencing a repeat of certain episodes (life experiences that I do ‘not’ want) that I am in the processes of testing myself to see how I am ‘now’ handling the situation, always with grace of course (not!) Let me explain further. When I am in the (usually long) process of trying to complete a life lesson or soul lesson, that specific experience that I am trying to rid my life of, will creep up from behind and ‘SMACK’ me right across the face! Which of course happened to me today.

Yesterday, however was a little bit easier (sneaky bastards..life lesson I mean) Anyway, I had only little bits of tests yesterday like, being late for appointments and trying hard not to look at the clock, while staying relaxed to pay attention to see if someone was going to pull in front of me and slow down to a crawl (I made it to my destination without a second to spare, but not late and keeping my smile all the while. Ha! take that, self.)

I also, had a great healing session done on me last night which was very spiritually opening. The healing was all done through energy work and might explain why today was so interesting for me or should I say painful. I am probably not making much sense, so let me try to explain further.

A soul lesson consists of an event in one’s life that one does not want and therefore is trying to release and rid themselves of. The less one puts thought and energy into the unwanted, the less it will occur. A life or soul lesson is something that you have been trying to overcome for lifetimes. So, usually it is a biggie, something that makes you feel uncomfortable deep inside and recurs often and with great strength. It also will most likely involve a very close partner (spouse, parent, child, etc.) because the two of you agreed to come in together to help each other overcome and spiritually grow in regards to this certain subject, hence ‘life lesson.’ Once you overcome, that certain experience will no longer be experienced and you will than have ascended.

Now, my personal lesson that I have a co-experiencer with, nipped me in the butt today and I had an unusually hard time letting go, emotionally. My mind was analyzing each word and phrase and emotion and and and.. I finally had to talk it out with another close experiencer (who, ironically, was also experiencing the near exact episode with her co-experiencer – go figure.) We are on the same spiritual page so it made it easy for us to counsel each other. I would say things like, “I know that in order for me emerge from this hole, I need to let go and actually ‘stop’ talking about it and analyzing it to death, but ….”, “My emotions are so charged and I just have to release and them and remember (the word ‘remember’ came up a lot) what I know.” This particular soul lesson had been so INfrequent lately, that I know it is almost over, I am almost there, “don’t let this one do you in”,  ‘I CAN overcome and release.”  Because here is how it works: The more advanced you are in the process of releasing your soul lesson, meaning, not letting it bother you and detaching from the negative energy associated with it, the less ‘it’ will occur in your life. Eventually it will be far and few between, until barely ever. Then “Wham!” it will   show its evil face, just to test you and see if you really are over it. How you react will determine if it’s out for good and you move on. So, today I really fought to react in a smart and positive way. I want this b*#@$ to be gone and gone for good! My negative action was short-lived (with work) and I was gratefully rewarded with a more peacefully energetically charged, co-experiencer. I am not fully removed, yet. And I know this because I am only ‘almost’ able to fully disconnect (and still hold compassion at the same time) from the subject of the experience and my co-experiencer. However it is a million times better than it has ever been before in this lifetime and the past lifetimes. So, all in all I end on a happy note with the thoughts of an easy and peaceful present (I almost said future, oops), filled with love and freedom. Until next time… smiles to all.

From the heart, always,

Shana

p.s. I wanted to thank a fellow blogger named, Sarah (sarah-alice-enterprises@live.com) for doing a great job on editing my up and coming book. I can’t wait to release it to the public!!! Thanks, Sarah!

Part II of Defuse (2nd half of prior posting)

Here are the steps needed to defuse a negatively charged situation..

  • recognize that you are armed for battle.
  • understand that in order to keep the negative charge between you and the other person, you need to keep the ‘fire’ lit inside of you.
  • put your own fire (negative charge) out and watch the sizzling charge between you and the other person start to slowly vanish.

Okay, now how do we put our ‘fire’ out? It is the same as it is with the rest of the law of attraction. After you pay attention to what is happening inside of you, it is time to make a decision – keep up with the negative situation by focusing on all the negative thoughts, therefor attracting more situations like this one into your future or…. LET GO and stop the recurrence of similar negative situations? Let’s stop ’em! Yes? Alright then, here is what we all need to work on…

  • understanding that the other person is in charge of their experiences, therefor you do not need to get emotionally involved.
  • recognize that the other person needs to go through what ever they are going through for a reason and when you back away emotionally it is very good for them and their soul growth.
  • disconnect yet be compassionate to their situation (you may have experienced what they are now experiencing, in your past.)
  • if you can’t comfort them, be logical in a loving way.
  • just say that you understand and you are sorry that they have to have this experience and Walk Away!
  • breath deeply and go into a quite area (bathroom?) to try and meditate and clear your mind, if only for a moment.
  • always re-enter the other persons space with a light attitude (sometimes a beer or glass of wine helps)
  • AND most importantly know that there is no right or wrong in life. Therefor there is not any real reason for any of us to feel guilty, mad or defensive in any situation/experience. We need to learn from life and make smart uplifting decisions. Do we want to experience ‘this’ again? Then defuse your energy and eventually you will no longer have ‘this’ experience again!

Following these steps will be the best thing that you will ever do for yourself and the other people in your life. It will bring peace to your path and everyone will benefit. It will bring your soul vibrations up and open your doors wide to manifesting your wonderful desires!

Good Luck and call on me if you need help!

From the heart,

Shana